Should You Invite Your Ex to Your Wedding?

Preparing a wedding guest list is one of the hardest tasks of the bride and groom. Why? Well, this list reflects the number of people that they have to serve food at the wedding reception. So, if the would-be husband and wife are in a tight budget, they have to drop some names from the list of invited guests. Thus, it is not easy.  

Aside from this, what else becomes the hardest part for you, as a bride, when it comes to listing guests? Inviting your ex-boyfriend, right? People, inasmuch as you would not want them to inquire about him, do look for your former guy in the guest list. If they do not find his name on it, they will ask: why?

Yes, why not? But, on the other hand, why should you? Well, to help you from this burden, here are some key points to make you decide if you should invite him or not.

If you ended up as friends, why not invite him?

Some relationships end good. Partners only parted ways for reasons they mutually agreed on. Either they both admitted that they can no longer continue the relationship because of incompatibility or they choose to take a different path is not relevant anymore. What is important is that you guys are friends.

If he cheated on you, why invite him?

He fooled you. He made you suffer from a broken relationship. You have accepted this fact; but, you can never forget. You do not want to see his face on your wedding day. So, obviously, he should not be there.

If your husband is okay with him around, why not invite him?

Your ex-boyfriend has become a part of your family. Even if your beautiful relationship has ended, his connection with your family has continued. He still goes to your home, plays chess with your dad and sits for a short chat with your mom. You – and not even your would-be husband – cannot change the fact that they have considered him a part of the family. Out of respect, he has to accept that. And if you are lucky that he does, you should not have a second thought – invite him. Past is past – you should all move on. He may not be your boyfriend anymore, but he is now a friend.

If he sends a message that he wants to see and join you in your wedding day, why not?

Out of respect to him as your former boyfriend (who, by the way, has done nothing bad to you) and to show maturity, you can add his name to your list of guests. Surely, your groom will understand because if he is in your shoe, he will do the same.

Inviting a former boyfriend to your wedding depends on how your relationship has ended. No matter how much you like to show “sportsmanship” and tell the people that both of you have moved on, his presence will definitely create quite a stir. So, do you think you should invite him or not? The final decision should come from you – not from anyone else.

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